Got Breakfast? Are You Still….

Sorry, I haven’t posted in a while, I think I had a bit of writer’s block and I haven’t been inspired lately but, I attended religious services yesterday morning and Ta Da! I thought of this……

If we have yet to find true fulfillment in our lives we wake every morning empty. This emptiness creates an appetite that needs to be satisfied, so we go about our day trying to find ways to rid ourselves of this hunger. We cook great meals, we exercise, we excel at work or in school and we aim to be the perfect spouse, parent or child. It’s pretty exhausting and we still end up feeling well….. empty.

We have just cycled through twenty-four hours of mundane activities searching for validation by way of accomplishments. Let’s be honest, we don’t do these things for own satisfaction, we do them for acceptance by our friends, family and society.

How often do we post pictures and quotes via social networks to manufacture appearances of “perfect” lives?

How often do we go to bed at night pondering on what we could have done better during day? How often do we wake up the next morning aiming to fix what went wrong yesterday, on top of MORE accomplishments for today?

If we do this long enough, days turn into weeks

weeks turn into months

months turn into years

years turn into an empty LIFETIME.

True satisfaction comes from within.. It comes from knowing the truth about you..

You have been fearfully and wonderfully made, not to chase the dream but to live the dream that’s inside of you..

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Believe In Your Greatness

I always challenge myself to be greater.. Be a better mother, friend, daughter, student.. Be a better christian.

A better christian.

It’s hard enough to be a good person in a society where doing wrong seems to be celebrated, let alone a christian. I can totally relate to Paul’s letters in the bible where he states that he wants to do right but always does the opposite. Life’s hard.

It’s not in anyone’s DNA to become successful at anything overnight, that includes living a Christ like life. Philosophers have debated for years over if we are innately born bad or good and honestly no one knows the answer. I believe if we trust our heart and have faith in the things that God has placed there, we become inspired and filled with courage to do more than we ever imagined.

Believe in yourself…. Trust your heart….Challenge yourself…. Have faith.. Be Great

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Repeating History… Why is America Afraid?

America…Early 1800’s

Thousands of African-Americans (I use this term lightly) were shipped overseas to mainly southern parts of America in the 1800’s. Once the practice of slavery ended, many of these people migrated north (Great Migration 1910) in search of better opportunities. Northern whites were more accepting of blacks yet, they began to feel intimidated by the millions of them moving into their territory. They began to block housing and refusing those who wished to take residence in predominately white neighborhoods and schools. Blacks were among some of the hardest working people during this time, they were not set out to make trouble but, merely survive as “free” persons in the United States of America.

I do not understand. While black people were enslaved and indebted to masters, they were beloved cooks, nannies, shoe shiners, horse tamers, slave whippers, entertainers, child breeders and servants. Once these people obtained their so called freedom, leaving their white masters and plantations, they were considered a threat to society.

Fast Forward to Mid 1900’s

If you were not on the receiving end of direct physical abuse as a result of participating in sit-ins, marches, boycotts, and attempts to segregate, you saw the brutal reality of it on TV or by listening to it on the radio. I would have imagined many blacks lived in constant fear for their lives and that of their children’s.

Martin Luther King’s presence dominated the civil rights movement by way of peaceful measures. He encouraged nonviolence, even when he was on the receiving end of it. His oratory skills were impeccable and helped moved a nation. So why was he hunted and gunned down like animal prey? Somebody somewhere did not agree with his principles. Somebody, somewhere, wasn’t amused with integrating schools, churches, restaurants, movie theaters, or retail stores. Somebody, somewhere felt threatened by integration but, why? This question still rings in my head today. What is America and its founders so afraid of?

I speak in present tense because America IS still afraid. There is an undisputed and unspoken line of segregation that still exists among races. If Martin Luther King were alive today, I do not believe he would be pleased, I believe he would still be fighting for the civil liberties of minorities in this nation. Where are the present day Martins, Malcolm’s, Marcus’, and Huey’s? Where are the future leaders fighting for justice?

I do not understand. This is a country that prides itself on liberty and justice for all. This is a country whose principle belief is equality among all men. This is a country whose available resources are the reason so many risk their lives to cross border lines. Why is this country still an unequal place to live?

In the midst of prayer breakfasts, memorial visits, and parades I urge you to think beyond festivities and ask yourself, are the disparities among minorities in 2013 different from those during the civil rights movement? How can you aid in creating change?

I’ll leave you with a quote that still holds relevance today.

“History will have to record that the greatest tragedy of this period of social transition was not the strident clamor of the bad people, but the appalling silence of the good people”.  Martin Luther King Jr

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Beyond Imagination & Dreams

Beyond Imagination & Dreams

Much like our lives, no one really knows where an ocean begins or ends… but that doesn’t stop it from existing.

We don’t plan our beginning, nor do we know our ending but, that doesn’t mean we cease to exist either.

To truly exist is to experience ALL that life has for you but, If you never step foot off the shore, how will you know?

Reach Beyond Imagination & Dreams……. LIVE

Petition aids in pulling the rug from under “All my babies’ mama’s”…

Over 37,000 signatures were received via Color of Change to halt the airing of Oxygen Networks new reality show, “All my babies mama’s”.

 Thank Heavens; just the title alone is insulting. In an age where the majority of cultural depiction relies on media, being black AND being labeled a “baby mama” is all too familiar. How many television shows have to be written and produced to get this point across? Why do we seem to glorify this image? If we keep allowing negative portrayals of minorities into our living rooms and newsstands, the way society depicts these classes will never change.

Although I am “a baby mama” myself, I’ve never been proud of that societal title. I would never exploit this fact to my children, let alone others and encourage the same behavior. While there is nothing wrong with single parenthood, it seems to be an expectation in the black community and is sometimes even celebrated. The benefit of children having a healthy, two parent household far outweighs the struggle of raising them alone.

When major TV networks produce shows such as All my babies mama’s they have to factor in their audience and the message being spread. In no way would this show have been positive for a young or even adult audience. Spotlighting a rapper with eleven children by ten different mothers, to none of which he is married, does nothing for the black community except exploit it even further and solidify negative depictions other races have of it.Image

Oxygen network released this statement saying it will “continue to develop compelling content that resonates with our young female viewers and drives the cultural conversation.”

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“Success is not just who you are, but who you surround yourself with” Najla Speaks


This could not be a truer statement, parading around with negative Nancy’s and pessimistic Peter’s can do nothing except drain you of all life’s wonders and possibilities. If you are the main source of inspiration among your friends, then maybe you need new friends. We tend to feel indebted to people we have known for a long time, and nothing can be more false. People change, relationships are outgrown, and the past is exactly that…. the past. When you find yourself stuck, take notice of what’s happening around you. Are you surrounding yourself with people who can propel you further, or are at least encouraging you to go further? Life is a learning process and you are meant to constantly evolve. So why do we believe that things (relationships, views, goals) should stay the same? I think it’s because we as humans are most comfortable with complacency and routine. No one really enjoys change. Those of us who go against this norm often to get the most out of life.


  1. Detox– This step is almost never mentioned but, has always been important to me when advising someone on how to live better. I believe that detoxing is necessary to start fresh. It’s like when you were a kid, playing board games and you lost… Most of us would holler out “I want a do-over”! Read Detoxing of the mind, body and soul it gives a new perspective on nutrition, your health and helping you to change your life’s direction. Do not underestimate the power of having a healthy body and mind!
  2. Believe– I cannot stress this enough but, knowing who you are and believing in yourself will help you to become who you want to be. Surround yourself with others who want to see you change, if your circle is full of negativity, remove yourself and meet new people! is a great resource for finding groups who share the same interests, and they are almost located everywhere.  I’m generally not a fan of self-help books but, I am reading Iyanla Vanzant’s “Meantime” right now. Although its main focus is finding yourself and the love you deserve, it gives helpful insight on knowing who you are at this very moment. The first step is to know what’s wrong. The second is to do something about it. In order to be the change you have to Pray. Believe. Do.
  3. Focus– Become solution driven and stop thinking of yourself as a victim! You are no longer a victim of circumstance or situations. Evaluate what is happening to and around you, think about ways to change it for better. Write those things down and devise a realistic plan on how to achieve solid results. Take action and put that plan to work!

 FINDING YOUR AWESOME               Image

Remember, it’s not a complicated task to live better, be better, and do better. There is also no magic wand. You have to want it for YOU. Where do you see yourself one month from now? One year? Five years? Visualize where you want to be and believe that you can get there…. GO FOR IT!