Single mothers

Excelling through

eXtreme circumstance…

I do not praise the single mother. In fact, I do not think highly of her at all. How dare a woman believe that she can raise a child on her own, and a man-child at that! How dare she take on the task of superhero and urge her child to rise above the stigma associated with fatherless homes. How dare she love, care, and nurture her child despite the circumstance. Her children are destined to become drug addicted, mentally unstable, drug dealing, high school dropouts without a promising future.  Her children are destined to be less than and placed in the social class of “unwanted” in today’s society.

Single mothers grab some popcorn and pay attention.

You are frowned upon. Perfected images of tree-lined streets, paved driveways, and two-story houses with detached garages can never be true for you. You have failed yourself, your children, and your society. You have added to the national deficit and the rise of taxes with your irresponsible ways. Your dependence on federal aid for housing, food, and education contributes to the demise of this nation.

According to most Americans you are “bad for society” never mind that the current President of the United States, as a child, did not know his father. Celebrities such as Bill Cosby,  Tom Cruise, Oprah Winfrey, Matt Damon, Julia Roberts and Angelina Jolie came from fatherless homes as well. What do they ALL have in common? They have reached a level of what society “deems” as success and they were once children who could have worn the label “hopeless burden”. These children had resilient mothers as well as a great support system that showed them otherwise.

Imagine that you have a flower garden and you decided to place a huge boulder on a row of seeds you just planted. Will those flowers still grow into what they were purposed? If you instead, watered those same seeds and cared for the grounds that you placed them in, you have just dramatically increased the survival of those flowers. They may now blossom into what they were intended.

Single motherhood does not equate to a problematic society. While it most often is not desired, children reared by their mothers alone can and do excel. The infrastructure of “family” has changed so drastically within the past several years and it is not fair to generalize that children from fatherless homes are burdens to society. The future of a child from a home without a father can be just a bright as one who came from a home with a father.

I tip my hat to the mothers who work, push their children to do more, and love them unconditionally in spite of  circumstance. You might be rearing the next great artist, writer, engineer, neurosurgeon, inventor, or even …… *gasps* the President.

We single mothers believe that nothing is impossible America. We wish that you would too.

God could not be everywhere, and therefore he made mothers.

~ Rudyard Kipling


Public Paranoia? The SECRET to overcoming fear..

The driving force behind most Americans today is fear. Mass media images instill fear of being too big, thin, ugly, beautiful, poor, rich, old, young, smart, dumb, unloved, unwanted…  Fear of death, tragedy and failure.        

Buy this drink-lose weight now!

Use this alarm system-or someone will break into your home!

Drive this car-or you may crash!

Eat this food-you will live longer!

Invest in this-you’ll never go broke!

Fear drives us to believe we need one more zero behind our salary to bring happiness, a bigger house, and a fancier car, nicer clothes, send our children to prestigious schools. We do everything to “measure up” however, we are never satisfied. Want to know why? Possessions do not bring fulfillment.  Happiness (fulfillment) comes from within and it only comes when you realize that the reason of your existence is to further your creators agenda. Not your own.

Material things are nice to have, but when your sole focus is on acquiring instead of giving (time, love, friendships etc ..) to others you will never feel complete.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we’re liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others” Marianne Williamson http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/A_Return_to_Love  this is one of my favorite quotes on fear, we are who we are because it’s written into a well-designed plan. Before being formed in our mother’s womb God called us for a purpose. Will you live up to it?

Conquering Fear

Analyze: What is causing the fear(s) get to the root of the situation.

Confront: Is the fear logical? What is the likelihood of the thing you fear to take place?

Replace: Think positive! As complex as your human brain is; it can only handle ONE thought at a time.


For God has not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. 2 Timothy 1:7